If you are a father, you need to listen to and read as much as you can from Douglas Wilson. Below is a talk he gave on fatherhood at last week’s Desiring God Pastor’s Conference.
Here’s the money quote.
“If we are strict only we crush the spirit out of our children or provoke rebellion. If we are merciful only we create a culture of entitlement and self-indulgence in the home. And in the worst possible combination if we are strict where God is merciful, stingy where God is generous and merciful where God is strict than we are busy supplying the strip clubs of the future with their pole dancers.”