The other night, my five-year-old son asked me what a player was.
My first response was to tell him that a player was a man that played on a team but I knew that I couldn’t get away with that. This was one of those teachable moments.
He asked me this question because on the way home from church he asked his mom if it was okay to have two girlfriends. I was in the other automobile but I’m guessing that the rest of the conversation went something like this.
“No, you can’t have two girlfriends. That would make you some kind of a player.”
“What’s a player?”
“Ask your dad.”
And that’s what he did. Because he and his brother are blessed with their mother’s good looks, they’re both going to have opportunities to be players. Because God, in his sovereign will, allowed me to spend a majority of my high school career with a mullet and chronic acne, I never had to worry about being a player. Even still, it’s my job to teach my boys not to be one.
The best way to do this is not to make them wear bracelets that remind them not to be players or to make them sign cards pledging not to be players or to simply beat the player out of them.
I think one of the best things I can teach my boys is to pursue the wisdom of God. The wisdom of God can serve them as a spotlight of sorts, exposing the dangers and foolishness that is all around them. Bible passages like Proverbs 2 will serve us well.
The wisdom of God will deliver them from the deceit of “smooth words” (2:16).
The wisdom of God will show them that the ultimate end of sexual sin is death (2:18).
The wisdom of God will serve as a constant reminder that there is a point of no return with sexual sin (2:19).
I hear parents talk a lot about giving their kids the things that they didn’t have when they were growing up. I want to do the same thing with my boys. But I’m not interested in giving them more toys. No, what I want them to have is a father that will sit down with them and say, “My son, be attentive to my wisdom; incline your ear to my understanding” (Proverbs 5:1).
I pray that God strengthens me to do this well.
I pray that God helps them to listen and obey well.
And now, O sons, listen to me, and do not depart from the words of my mouth. Proverbs 5:7