A Letter to the Ladies


I took a long road trip with your future husbands last week.  They did a good job of staying in their car seats in the back while watching movies.  Right now their favorite is Napoleon Dynamite.  I don’t know you yet but I’m guessing that’s probably not your favorite movie.

While we were driving I noticed a lot of billboards for this place called Pedro’s.  Pedro’s is located right on the border between North and South Carolina.  About 100 miles or so before you actually get to Pedro’s the billboards start showing up.  And they keep on coming about every 5 miles or so until finally you see Pedro’s, right there on the side of Interstate 95.  These billboards tell you everything you need to know about Pedro’s from the reptile farm and amusement park to the hotel and fireworks.  The first time I saw these signs I thought that Pedro’s looked like a nice place to visit.

When we finally drove by Pedro’s, we saw that it was not quite as good as advertised.  The hotel looks like it stopped functioning in 1972.  There are weeds grown up all around the amusement park.  I use the term amusement park loosely. I counted one roller coaster.  About the only thing I saw at Pedro’s that was still working was a gas station and a gift shop.  I kept on driving and your future husbands kept watching their movie.

You’re probably wondering why I’m taking the time to write to you about some place called Pedro’s.  Stay with me.  I promise that this is going somewhere.  You see, Pedro’s put itself out there.  They let the world know where they are and what they have to offer.  But it was all hype.  The advertisements were better than the actual product.

Maybach is sort of the anti-Pedros.  They make the coolest car around today.  You can get one for about a quarter of a million dollars.  But here’s the thing.  Maybach never advertises.  As far as I know, there are no Maybach billboards or commercials.  Their philosophy is that they have an excellent product and it speaks for itself.

Ladies, as you move through life looking for that special someone, don’t advertise yourself.  You are created in God’s image.  No amount of pictures all over the internet of you in a bikini can add to that.  Your outer beauty is not what’s most important.  The Bible says that there is something more worthy of your attention.

But let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.  1 Peter 3:4 (ESV)

Before you meet my sons you will meet a lot of other guys who try to force their flawed ideas of beauty on you.  Don’t sell yourself out for a little temporary attention from boys that don’t yet know what it means to be a man and treat a lady right.  Instead, live your life for the glory of the One who made you.  If your heart has been captured by Jesus, the Creator of the universe looks at you and sees “imperishable beauty” and thinks you are “precious.”  Please don’t trade that in for the approval of a 15-year-old boy.

Several years from now each of you will stand next to my sons and as a couple you will covenant before God to love each other for as long as you live.  In the meantime I’ll be doing my best to make sure that my two future men are prepared to love and lead you.

It’s a hard job because they are a lot like their father.

Thankfully, they have a mom with an imperishable beauty to help even things out.


Your Future Father-In-Law