It is possible to give a kid thousands of dollars so that he can earn a college diploma only to find out after graduation that he is still a kid because he never learned in college what it means to be a man.
In their excellent book, When Helping Hurts, Steve Corbett and Brian Fikkert confront a similar situation and address the real problem behind cases like these.
“Simply giving this person money is treating the symptoms rather than the underlying disease and will enable him to continue with his lack of self-discipline. In this case, the gift of money does more harm than good, and it would be better not to do anything at all than to give this handout. Really!”