The Bible is clear. Homosexuality is a sin (Romans 1:26-32; 1 Corinthians 6:9-11). And so is gay marriage (Matthew 5:31-32). But pastor, maybe it’s time for you to quit preaching about that.
Stop preaching about the evils of so called gay marriage if you’re not also preaching against the evils of serial divorce (Matthew 5:31-32). In some churches, a sermon against gay marriage will get you a lot of Amens while one against divorce will have a moving truck parked outside of your house on Monday morning.
And if you do preach against divorce pastor, remember to use a scalpel, not a shotgun. Not every divorced person got that way from being a drunken, God-hating heathen (1 Corinthians 7:15). Many of them fought with everything they had to save their marriage. Many didn’t have much of a say in the matter. And many of them feel the weight of the world on their shoulders when they walk into your church. They don’t need you adding more weight. They need to hear of the one whose yoke is easy and burden is light (Matthew 11:28-30).
Stop preaching about how marriage is under attack in this country until you’ve come to realize that it’s also under attack in your own home. Satan didn’t wait until governments or churches were established to start his stealing, killing and destroying. No, the first institution he went after was the family (Genesis 3). And he hasn’t stopped. Pastor, you would be foolish to believe that he’s going to leave your marriage alone. Yes, biblical marriage in this country is dying. But your marriage will die too if you don’t fight. Before you cast the speck out of the culture’s eye, examine the 2×4 in your own (Matthew 7:4-5).
Stop preaching against gay marriage and divorce if you’re not ready to do it with grace. Remember, Jesus moved toward sinners. Sinners like the woman at the well (John 4). Sinners like the thief on the cross (Luke 23:39-43). Sinners like me and you (Ephesians 2:1-9). And, contrary to what some in the church who value being hip and accepted more than the truth may try to tell us, Jesus didn’t come to affirm our sins or tell us that sin is no big deal as long as we mean well. He came to confront sin. He came to kill it. But he came to give new life to the sinner. Remember pastor, no one can be too gay, too divorced or too perverted to be captured by God’s grace and forgiven of sin.
Pastor, your church needs you to preach the truth. They need to hear from you what the Bible says about marriage and sexuality. But, no matter how good you preach it, they’re not going to hear your sermon if you’re just preaching it on a Sunday morning. They need to see you living that sermon with grace and repentance on Monday too.