So Now What? Get Your House In Order

Gay marriage is now legal in the United States. So now what? How should the Church respond? The following is the second part of five answers to that question.


Get Your House In Order

Parents spend a lot of money in hopes that their little boy will be the next LeBron James or that their little girl will be the next Taylor Swift. This rarely turns out being a worthy investment. Even in the unlikely scenario that the kid does get famous, he usually has a very public celebrity meltdown because his parents were more like agents than sources of love, direction and wisdom.

If you want your kid to be like someone, here’s a better option.


If you’re familiar with the Bible, he’s the guy who was thrown into a den of lions by the government for praying. Years before that, he was taken from his homeland and forced to live as a slave in Babylon. Obedience to God made him and his three friends, Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego, stand out among the other slaves.

A few years ago I preached through the book of Daniel. I couldn’t help but think about my kids. Will they remain devoted to Jesus when they leave home for college or married life? Worse, would they react like Daniel if an invading army ripped them from their family and country? I hoped so. Perhaps I’ll be getting my answer sooner than I expected.

But here’s the thing. We haven’t been overthrown by an invading army. Yet. No, we’ve just morphed into Babylon all on our own. The world around us is quick to bow to our culture’s many 90-foot statues in the name of love and tolerance. Like Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego, will our kids be the ones standing up when everyone else mindlessly bows? Like Daniel, will our kids bow to the real King when everyone else carries on worshipping safe, pretend gods?

Parents, the answer to that question has a lot to do with the devotion that your kids see in you.

Theres a popular verse going around the Internet these days.

“Judge not, that you be not judged.” Matthew 7:1 (ESV)

Jesus said that. And now, so does every unrepentant sinner on the planet when someone dares to confront their sin. Here’s how it usually works.

Repentant Sinner: “Hey, so you’re robbing banks. You know, stealing is a sin. But I used to do it too. I once was a bank robber too but now I’m free from that life. You can get over this.”

Unrepentant Sinner: “Leave me alone! Jesus said don’t judge. Also, I’m having hate speech charges brought up against you. Have fun at your re-education camp in Terre Haute, Indiana.”

Taken in context, Jesus’ words aren’t a prohibition of discernment. He actually commands his followers to judge in verse six of this same passage. Instead, it’s the self-righteous variety of judging that Jesus condemns.

You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye. Matthew 7:5 (ESV)

Bruce Jenner becoming Caitlyn Jenner is wrong. But moms, don’t ramble on and on about how immoral and disgusting that is on your way to see Magic Mike. Cast the log out of your eye first.

So-called gay marriage is wrong. But dads, don’t yell about how it’s destroying society when you treat your own marriage and family like a chore that you only address if there’s enough time after you’re finished doing the stuff that you really like.

Parents, the government has proven to us that they have no clue what family is. So stop depending on them, or anyone else for that matter, to teach your kids about it. It’s up to you to show them.

Love each other in a Christ-like way.

Teach your kids the Bible.

And pray together.

There’s a good chance that when they’re on their own, your kids will do the same thing.

Even if it means a trip to the lion’s den.

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