I’ve got to hand it to Snoop Dogg. He did way better than a lot of other parents.
Snoop’s son, Cordell Broadus was an elite high school football player. So elite that UCLA offered him a scholarship to play for them. Broadus took the offer but he’ll never play for the Bruins. It’s not an injury or a lack of ability that’s keeping Cordell off of the field.
It’s his heart.
When I first heard about Broadus leaving the team, I wondered what the young man could be thinking. He gets to go to a good school for free. All he has to do is play football. It seemed like such a waste to me.
And then came the rest of the story. Broadus recently took to Instagram to explain his decision. Every parent should read his words.
“I played football for my father because I thought that was the only way he would love me & be apart of my life. It took me 12 years to realize he loves Cordell Broadus the person not Cordell Broadus the football player.
The best day of my life was when I heard those exact words; I love you dad hope you have a great birthday.”
Cordell was playing football for his father’s love.
What about your kid? Is her hobby a passion or is it her bid to win your love and acceptance? Is your son playing ball because he loves it or is he playing ball because he wants you to love him?
Twelve years is a long time to do something in order to earn the love of a parent. The Internet has lashed out at Snoop for being the typical overbearing sports parent. I don’t know enough about Snoop the father to make a judgement on that. All I can say is that at least, even after twelve years, he expressed unconditional love to his son. Many kids wait a lot longer than twelve years for words like that to come from their parents. Sometimes, those words never come.
Parents, maybe you have a busy weekend of shuttling kids back and forth to games, practices and recitals. That’s good. But at some point today or tomorrow, sit your kids down and tell them that you love them, even if they quit the piano cold turkey or never pick up a ball again. The next twelve years of your kids lives should not be spent trying to appease the performance gods otherwise known as mom and dad.
Whatever your kids are into, you should be into it too. And you should help your kids strive for excellence and whatever their sport, hobby or talent is. When they want to quit halfway through the season, don’t let them. Talk to them about the importance of giving their all. Let them know how much you like watching them and how proud you are of them. Cheer when they do well. Encourage them when they don’t.
All of that is important. But it’s not all they need to hear.
Your son needs to hear that you love him, not just the football version of him.
Your daughter needs to hear that you love her, not just the piano playing version of her.
Ask your kids if they enjoy what they do. It is possible, you know, that you enjoy their hobby more than they do. This should not be the case. Your love for them should be strong enough that if their passion doesn’t match yours, you love them anyway.
If your kid decides to walk away from his sport or hobby, it might crush you and the dreams you had for him.
But if your kid keeps doing a sport or hobby so that you’ll really love him, it will crush him.
So parents, let your kids know that it is okay for them to hang up their football cleats in middle school so that they can pursue their passion for the marching band. Even if the marching band isn’t your passion.
Because if you really love your kid, it will be.